“Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other”
As an Indian kid, success was always determined by my exam scores or rather success was if I scored more than my friends (and not what I had actually learnt). Same was the case with sports and other activities which did not change much even after graduation. This perhaps may not be the case for others but sure we do make comparisons on the success scale whenever someone tells us what they are up to these days. If someone is a doctor, a lawyer or a businessman we often assume they are very successful in their lives but rarely do we understand that this judgement is based on a very limited view of what success is.
Go on the Internet and you will get millions of ‘success’ quotes that define, redefine or express what success is and how you can achieve it. But have you ever wondered, what if this definition of success that we know is the incorrect one? What if we are completely off the path achieving success? If that is true, then the question is what is the right definition of success and how do we achieve it.
For many owning a BMW or flaunting a diamond necklace might be a success, while for others a well-secured job with a fancy designation might express it. But even as our society defines successful people depending on their wealth and fame, is it essential for everyone to confine to that? I don’t believe so. It is absolutely not necessary to confine to these definitions which correlate success with prosperity. Success is and should always be what you define it to be. Since it is your life and you get a single chance to live it, you must live it as you want it and not how other people outline it. What success means to me may just sound hilarious to you and perhaps what you view as success might sound unachievable to someone else.
But that does not mean that one should give up on their aims to achieve it. Each individual is different and so are our journeys. Not every person who drops out of college becomes Mark Zuckerberg and not every person graduating from Harvard turns out to be Steve Ballmer. So becoming a successful person totally depends on your views and actions and its worth can only be valued by you. Of course, there will be many who will tread in your path to define success for you as per their perceptions of it, but a wise decision would be to not limit yourself to this stereotype of success.
Take time to think about what success means to you. Is it your work, wealth, family, personal space or something even greater than that. Remember that it is your personal choice and you should decide whether you are successful and not if others think you are. While it is essential to be inspired and motivated by others, avoid comparing yourself to them.
Rather compare yourself with your yesterday’s self to see if you have made any progress. Once you have defined what success is to you, you will see that the path to realizing it is pretty straight forward. You will surely encounter hurdles on your way but your determination should drive you towards accomplishing your goals just like Nelson Mandela said,
“Everyone can rise above their circumstances and achieve success if they are dedicated and passionate about what they do”.
I'm a self confessed foodie, king of the kitchen, wannabe anthropologist, technology evangelist , curious, inquisitive & experimental entrepreneur at @DigiLands and an adrenaline junkie. Love spending time with my wife & two young children and faulty KitKats that consist purely of solid chocolate.